There's nothing like seeing your groon arrive at the venue. It was a moment that made me feel like time stood still, when I took in my first breath for the day. I was upstairs in the dressing room, he got out of the car and time stopped. No butterflies, just calm, just silence, just "we did it", just "it's finally happening". From that moment, everything else rushed by too fast to think about what was happening, until we got to the hotel room, opened the door, peeked in and saw the room done up just for us. Breathe. He carries me into the room. We're married!
Nope. Not yet. We're still umming and aaring about where and when. He has his own business and I'm in finance, timing is an issue.
I've always dreamt of an elegant yet simple affair. And that's exactly what we achieved. I went for 2 make up trials to make sure my make up artist knew exactly what look I was going for. Natural, no contouring, subtle highlights and colour to match my outfit. Our wedding attire was different to the norm but still traditional. I'd never wanted to marry in traditional red, and life brought me the perfect outfit, talk about putting out positive energy into the universe. This was by far the easiest part about planning our wedding. We went in-store, the outfit, inspired by my favourite Indian designer Anushree Reddy, was brought out and I was inlove. Done. I did change into reception attire more comfortable to dance in. I changed my skirt for a custom made aladdin type pants which matched Renay's reception kurta top.
The hardest part for both of us was finding the right shoes, but here again, it kind of just happened.
Hair too, just fell into place. I saw a style online and my hairdresser pulled it off.
My accessories where literally a last minute effort and was a combination of a gift from my maternal uncle who travelled to India weeks before my wedding, and my own purchases.
Nails, I found a pic online and called around until I could find a bridal nail lady who could fit me in.
My mendhi was the one thing booked well in advance and was a combination of different styles I had seen online.
Make up - Facetime by Salrina Reddy
Hair - Hairmax Ballito
Clothing and Accessories - Enens Umhlanga
Custom made clothing - Lalchand Durban
Nails - Secret Spa, Liesel
Shoes - Steve Madden
Mendhi - RNS Mendhi Stanger
We were married at The Boathouse in Ballito.
The accommodation was booked out over that weekend so my guests booked accommodation else where in ballito and Umhlanga.
I had the whole thing planned out, i was going to have facials and massages and tons of treatments to look simply stunning.....Time and life had other plans for me. Thankfully I've always physically active so I merely continued with my exercise routine, 3 days a week at the least. Drank lots of water every day. Kept a record of what I ate, in the 2-3 weeks leading up to the wedding, I cut out sweet things completely, I had already reduced my sugar intake years ago, so it wasn't terribly difficult. Took my usual multi vitamins and continued with my normal Dermalogica skin care regime. My make up artist warned me not to do a facial in the month of my wedding as my skin may react with the combination of stress and we wouldn't have enough time to correct. I did manage to squeeze in my express Mani and full on spa pedi a day before all my festivities were set to begin.
I didn't do too much for my Hair. I went for a hair trim with treatment 2 and a half weeks before my wedding and dyed my Hair the weekend before the big day.
Personally, the best way for me to deal with the unnecessary political stress which escalated to ridiculous heights 2 weeks before my big day, was to meditate and go for 2 lengthy sessions of healing in those 2 weeks. It's amazing what time with a positive, beautiful soul can do for your spirit.
We chose a venue with a beautiful view so decor could be minimal.
Our ceremony was out in the garden with the deck being used as our stage. Our background was the ocean. We had simple, minimal but elelgant flowers together with draping to act as a frame to the ceremony.
The aisle had lanterns on either side and we use gold tiffany chairs.
Rose petals for the ceremony were in little paper cones sealed with a mini peg and pamphlets spoke to the significance of the ceremony and the ceremony agenda.
We had fruit and sweetmeats on the entrance table with welcome drinks available for guests.
As it was a garden wedding in summer, we had white Chinese umbrellas and wooden fans for guests.
Our reception saw the same minimal, elegant style. Circle xentre pieces were made by hubby with the flower arrangements done by our amazing decor company. We opted for 2 types of centre pieces. The circles and different shaped geometric with flowers and leaves coming out of them and flowing onto the tables. Both centre piece styles had bronze gold votives to add to the ambience.
Table cloths were blush pink with neatly folded napkins.
Gold tiffany chairs with no tiebacks.
Lighting supplied by our dj pulled the entire venue together beautifully.
We opted for a simple 2 seated set up for the 2 of us to enjoy dinner, but witnessed the reception formalities on the same chair used for our ceremony, it was a beautiful pink velvet stool which our decor company provided.
We had a standard dance floor set up, a photo booth available for guests to take pics and write a message in a guestbook where a copy of their pic was stuck.
Our starters were served on the table in platters, mains always served with 2 buffet lines and a cake, dessert, biscuit table was set up with tea or coffee as beverages.
Wedding favours were lavender seeds which were stuck onto the program with a note about the significance of our choice. A ferrero chocolate alongside and a 500ml still water with our wedding logo printed thereon.
Renay wore a traditional sherwani for his ceremony. He opted to change the colour pants to a copper as it gave the entire outfit a bit more of a regal look. Added to the change in pants colour, Renay bought a beautiful scarf from Junaid Jamsher in Gateway to finish the look.
He changed for the reception into a mint green tailor made kurta top which matched my pants.
The men who walked me down the aisle bought blush sports jackets from Markhams and matched with navy pants and navy shirts with brown shoes. Pants and shirts were from truworths and edgars. My brother wore a floral navy shirt to give his look a more modern beach wedding feel, whilst my dad and brother in law opted for the more traditional formal navy shirts. My elder brother/cousin opted for a more traditional suit.
We don't really have bridesmaids at our weddings, but I did have a female entourage who walked ahead of me as bridesmaid would.
My nieces wore greens and pinks, to match me. All their outfits were from Memsaab in umhlanga.
My sister and brother's girlfriend both wore pink outfits with accessories from Memsaab in Durban.
My mum wore a custom made, sabyasachi type Saree from Enens in umhlanga. Her Saree was plain but exquisite, with a beautiful green blouse which had beautiful work throughout and a soft peach Saree with a border to match perfectly with the work on her blouse. Her accessories were also from Enens in Umhlanga.
Hair and make up of the 3 adult ladies in my entourage were by Facetime Salrina Reddy and Hairmax Ballito.