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How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows

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If you’re reading this, you’re probably already dreaming of a wedding ceremony filled with laughter, tears (the good kind) and personal touches that reflect the love you share. And nothing captures that more beautifully than writing your own vows! It might feel a little intimidating - where do you even start when trying to express a lifetime of love in just a few minutes? Don’t worry. We’ve got you. Whether you’re a poet at heart or a bit nervous about public speaking, we’re here to help you craft vows that are heartfelt, genuine and uniquely you.

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Why Write Your Own Vows?

Personal vows bring a deeply intimate and memorable touch to your ceremony. They reflect the unique journey you’ve been on together and the promises you want to make for your future. It’s your chance to speak directly to your partner - not just with love, but with intention.

Getting Started

Before you start writing, take a moment to reflect. Grab a notebook, go somewhere quiet and think about what your relationship means to you. Some great starter questions include:

1. When did you know they were the one?

2. What do you love most about them?

3. How have they changed your life?

4. What do you promise to them - not just today, but always?

There’s no right or wrong here. Let your thoughts flow without overthinking them. You’ll find the gems in the honest moments.

Structure Can Help

Even though vows are personal, a little structure makes it easier to write. Try this simple flow:

1. Open with your love story: a memory, a moment or a realisation.

2. Share what you love about them: qualities, quirks or the way they make you feel.

3. Make your promises: the meaningful, everyday and even the funny ones.

4. Wrap it up with hope: what are you looking forward to in your future together?

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Keep It Real

You don’t have to be overly poetic or dramatic (unless that’s your vibe!). Speak from the heart in your own voice. If you’re funny, be funny. If you’re sentimental, lean into that. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s authenticity. Aim for about 2 to 5 minutes of speaking time. It’s long enough to be meaningful but short enough to keep your guests engaged (and your emotions in check!).

Be Practiced & Prepared

Read your vows aloud a few times so they feel natural. Practicing will also help you keep a steady pace and catch anything that feels awkward. But don’t worry about memorising them - reading from a card or vow booklet is totally fine and takes the pressure off.

The Bottom Line

Writing your own vows is one of the most personal and powerful ways to honour your love story. It’s okay to feel a little nervous, but trust us when you’re standing face to face with your partner, everything else melts away. It’s just the two of you, making promises that will last a lifetime! So take a deep breath, grab that pen and start writing the words that are already in your heart. You’ve got this!

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