So you’re chosen the bridesmaids, however now comes the task of ensuring they remain content and excited during the run up to your big day. Below is a simple guide to help you make sure that your girls are smiling all the way up to one of the most important days of your life.
Your girls will be spending a lot of time together before the big day, so make sure they are all well acquainted with each other before all the planning begins.
Arrange a dinner with lots of bubbly, so that your girls can get to know eachother just a little bit better! Nothing says 'celebration' better than popping a few bottles of bubbly with your bffs.
Because this occasion warrants more than just a text or WhatsApp message - it’s a big deal for bridesmaids too. There are many creative ways to do this that will have extra-special meaning for your besties. We’re not saying that you need to go on a helicopter ride or book an entire stadium out with an orchestra, but something special yet cost-effective will also do the trick! From handwritten notes, to edible gifts, your options are endless...
Cute ideas such as a bridesmaid tool kit complete with a portable charger, a “miniemergency” kit and more, they’ll have everything they (and you) will need during your wedding day. If your girls are into wine, get them their favourite bottles of vino with some hilarious labels. If they’re foodies, some celebratory printed macarons make for the perfect gift .
It’s one of life’s most common yet unanswered questions: Why don’t girls get along with each other? No matter how hard you may try, some girls just don’t get. It’s also no secret that weddings have the tendency to bring out lots of emotions! Our best advice is to deal with any of this in the beginning to avoid any awkwardness or unpleasantness in the future. Try to spend as much time together as a group, socializing and introducing the people that might not know each other all that well.
This can only help ease tensions down the line and add to everyone getting along on the big day and dancing the night away.
Almost every bride has uttered the famous phrase, “They can wear them again!” but, truth be told, most maids don’t. So while that’s a lovely idea to keep in mind, it shouldn’t be your number one priority. Instead, focus on these things:
Take a look at your own dress. Think about your gown and overall wedding style. Is it classic, modern, or maybe vintage? Your bridesmaids’ dresses should fit the vibe. If you’re wearing a flowy, bohemian lace dress, your maids might look out of place in formal taffeta dresses. If you envisioned a particular style, cut or colour for bridesmaids dresses and you aren’t willing to compromise, make sure you let them know why and explain the look you’re going for.
Think seriously about the colour. Don’t expect everyone to cast a bronze glow. “Blush and taupe are hot bridesmaid dress colours right now, but they don’t suit every skin tone. They can wash some people out.
If you’ve got a range of fair, olive, and dark skin tones, make sure the dress colour flatters all (keep hair color in mind, too, if you’re choosing something unique that could clash with a redhead, for example.) You can work in a two-color palette, to please everyone (think pink and a darker coral).
With different body types and self-confidence levels, being an important factor in whatever you wear, be mindful that your bridal party will be a lot more gleeful if they’re wearing something they like and showcases their individual personalities.
Be flexible (to a point) but remember, it's your day so try not to succumb to pressure to make everyone happy- it's impossible; but do try to keep an open mind and be understanding. Your bride squad is there to support you and ideally work with your vision.
Bridesmaids are the superwomen of weddings and you’ve chosen these ladies for a reason! Most bridesmaids would like to have some input, but too many opinions can make the whole process miserable. But, make sure you show them that you value and respect their opinions - it will go a long way in happy wedding planning!
Invite them along to your appointments, start a WhatsApp group where everyone can interact and add to the excitement of this once-in-a-lifetime life event.
You don’t have to wait for one big bachelorette night out or bridal party to have fun. Remind yourself to take time out from wedding planning to bond with your family and bridal party.
Think of it like this…it’s the last stage of selfish girl time with your closet and you’ll never get this time back. Take the time to show them how much you care and make occasions out of everything. Round up childhood snacks like Holey Moley's or Wilson Toffees, and pop in a classic movie—think Clueless, Pretty in Pink or Say Anything. A trip down memory lane will get everyone talking and laughing in no time. DIY craft parties over wine nights to a girls' day out, cake tasting, floral arrangement classes and of course, the shopping.
Odds are, your wedding party will lend a hand on more than one occasion (think: pitching in for the bridal shower, organizing a bachelorette getaway and volunteering their time for bridesmaid dress fittings), and a gift is a thoughtful token of your gratitude- perhaps a quaint piece of jewellery that they could don on the big day; for stunning personalised jewellery Silvery is your go to.
This is an experience that’s too special not to share with those closest to you even though it can get stressful at times. As the big day approaches, we hope these tips are a fun method to relieve some stress and have fun with your girls!