When Stef and I began planning our wedding, there were two bits of advice that resonated with us, and which influenced every decision we made about our wedding day.
"Comparison is the chief robber of Joy" - planning a wedding is daunting enough, without worrying about what is in fashion, or what wedding trends we need to stay on top of. The minute we heard this advice, all the pressure fell away, and the real meaning of our day sank into our hearts.
The second bit of advice we received, was "Choose an emotion that you want your day to invoke, and plan around that." So we chose the JOY of our loved ones, and the Oh Happy Day planning began!
We chose Calderwood Hall as our venue because we fell in love with it immediately. We wanted a weekend celebration and Calderwood Hall were so accommodating. Wade and his team were exceptional in helping us create the day of our dreams, and they went above and beyond the call of duty! I will recommend this venue to anyone wanting a festive vintage wedding with delicious food in a gorgeous setting.
Our wedding was a guest centred affair. We wanted our guests to walk away from our special day, feeling like they had a personal stake in our marriage.
We were so honoured that Ryan, Stef's close friend from high school, agreed to marry us. It was a huge ask, considering the fact that he had never done anything like this before, but we knew that he was the perfect person for us. We also requested that all our guests bless our rings before they reached us in the front, so by the time we exchanged our rings, every single person had wished us a happy thought for our future marriage. Our ring board was made by my aunt Sue, from Sue Sylvester Fabrics.
Our wedding celebration was a real labour of love, and - as a DIY wedding - we have so many people to thank for making our day so incredible. Our decor was very different but we knew exactly what we wanted and Jackie Sullivan, our close friend and wedding planner, was an absolute life saver! Stef's father helped assemble our seating plan on the day - which was a collection of old plates I had collected in the months before the wedding. Our moms, who made our heart mobiles and bunting, and my friends who helped to paint them, made our chapel look so beautiful. My friend Courtney painted us the prettiest OH HAPPY DAY banner, which was hung up along the driveway to Calderwood to greet our guests as they arrived. Another great big thank you is owed to my aunts and close friends who helped me to make over 600 origami flowers for our reception..... That's well over 3000 folds and a LOT of effort! And my amazingly creative friend Danielle Wright, who made the flower crowns for all my bridesmaids, as well as the most beautiful, delicious wedding cake. Each guest had a hand written note waiting for them when they took their seats, thanking them for the love and joy they have brought to our lives.
Bride : I wore a vintage style, dusty pink Cosmabella dress from Olivelli in Westville and my shoes were by Joy - available at Olivelli. www.olivellidurban.co.za
My vintage white feather bolero belonged to my mother in the 70s. Bless :)
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Special thanks to:
Calderwood Hall, Wade Coetser
Lindsay Nixon and Laura Halgreen
Olivelli Durban, Tracy
Fiona Clair Photography
The Shank Tank videography, Stacey